"Give a man a fish and he eats for a day.  Teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime." 

/  Chinese proverb /

Premises of therapy:

I will equip you with tools and skills.  I will empower you to thrive independently.  Maya angelou stated, "When you know better, you do better."  I assert that knowing is not enough--you have to have the equipment--the tools and skills--to do so.  the only constant in life is change, and as such, you are destined to need a lot of tools. . .

There is no one-size-fits-all in therapy.  You are unique and your needs, wants and goals will reflect this.  I will tailor therapy to you.  We will collaborate:  you are the expert on you and I have expertise in the field.  You establish your goals and I will offer relevant information, feedback and support to empower you to manifest these goals.

I do not seek to diagnose but rather to understand the roots of presenting issues.  On occasion, I may offer diagnoses--but as a means of promoting understanding, educating and sharing possible treatments (as relevant).

I offer a variety of treatment modalities to accomodate your needs and comfort.  Therapy is best when it is flexible.

experiential therapies allow you to literally visualize your issues, affording you clarity on which to base your choices and decisions.  healing/growth/repair cannot occur with that which is denied, and awareness is the first step in breaking denial.  I will support you in taking that first step and beyond toward achieving your goals.

Trauma therapies are tailored to the brain:  the part that registers trauma, the limbic system, does not have access to language, rationale or a sense of space and time.  As such, talk therapies are ineffective.  Again, I offer a variety of treatment modalities such as EMDR, Experiential and yoga therapies, trauma-focused CBT and psychodrama to resolve trauma.

Individuals

If you are struggling with feeling "stuck," with repeatedly not achieving your goals (despite your best intentions), with frustration that your insides do not match your outsides, therapy could benefit you. If it is difficult to just get through the day, if you experience continued disappointment or disconnection in your relationships, If you just can't shake issues of depression or anxiety, please reach out:  you don't have to navigate this alone.  If you want a safe space in which to be supported, a place to be heard without judgement--to hear yourself--contact me.  

Couples
 

If you have lost that "lovin' feeling," if you can't decide whether to stay or to go, or if you just want more from and for your relationship, I am here to support you.  the addition of a neutral third party--me-- shifts relational dynamics, creating space and releasing tension enough to address and resolve issues.  Imagine, for example, untangling a knot:  in frustration, stressed, repeated pulling and tugging only tightens a knot, adding tension; In contrast, slow, intentional, deliberate actions create space, separating the parts, allowing the various strands to be made visible, enabling a knot to be untangled.  The difficulty during conflict lies in cultivating a relaxed state and creating mental and emotional space, or detachment, enough to see the issues clearly. I will provide this safe space for you, a place of comfort in knowing that you are being supported without judgement, that you are not alone, that both you and your partner's needs will be attended to, so that you may do this important work. 

Sex and/or Love Addicts and Partners 
 

There is hope.  I have cutting edge, specialized training to uniquely support your needs whether on an individual or coupleship basis.  Sex addiction is a brain disease for which there is treatment and recovery.  For partners, please know that what has occurred is not your fault and that you, too, deserve treatment and recovery from the betrayal, the hurt, the lies and the loss of the relationship that you once had.