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TraumaAddictions & Codependency

Relevant Readings & Websites

A daunting term, trauma is broken down into digestible information with surprising applications (learn the difference between "Big T" and "little t," trauma, for example).

  • "The Body Keeps the Score," Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

  • "Mindsight," Daniel Siegel, M.D.

  • "The Courage to Heal," Bass and Davis

  • "The Courage to Heal Workbook," Laura Davis

  • "Waking the Tiger," Peter Levine

  • "Trauma and Addiction," Tian Dayton, Ph.D.

Addictions & Codependency

Relevant REadings

When helping is hurting you, or you find yourself gaining a sense of worth or happiness from another person, consider if learning more about codependency could benefit you.   If you are uncertain as to whether your use of a substance or behavior constitutes coping versus an "ism", or you have identified that you need support about an addiction, consult these addiction resources for pertinent information and solutions to be used "one day at a time."

  • "Trauma and Addiction," Tian Dayton, Ph.D.

  • "Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions," Bill W.

  • "Codependent No More," Melodie Beattie

  • "Facing Codependence," Pia Mellody

  • "Life Without Ed," Schaefer & Rutledge

  • American Society of Addiction Medicine: www.asam.org

  • Alcoholic's Anonymous: www.aa.org

  • Codependent's Anonymous: www.coda.org

  • Narcotic's Anonymous: www.na.org

  • *Nuggets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HUngLgGRJpo

 
 
 

Partners (of Sex/Love Addicts)

Relevant Reading Materials 

You have experienced the ultimate betrayal as the partner of a sex/love addict.  As well, you have the anguish of heartbreak, loss, humiliation, broken trust, etc.  These books address this wreckage and share a means to weather this storm.

  • "Mending a Shattered Heart," Stephanie Carnes

  • "Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal, Lies and Secrets," Claudia Black

  • "Disclosing Secrets: When, To Whom & How Much to Reveal," Corley & Schneider

  • "Your Sexually Addicted Spouse," Steffens & Means

  • "Betrayal Bonds," Patrick Carnes

 

Sex and/or Love Addicts

 

Relevant Reading Materials 

How does one distinguish between healthy sexuality and sex addiction?  How does one know the difference between confiding in a friend versus indulging in an emotional affair?  These questions and more are addressed in the following books:

  • "Out of the Shadows," Patrick Carnes

  • "Facing Love Addiction," Pia Melody

  • "Is it Love or is it Addiction," Brenda Schaeffer

  • "Sex Addiction 101," Rob Weiss

  • "Erotic Intelligence," Alexandra Katehakis

  • "Mirror of Intimacy," Alexandra Katehakis

  • https://www.recoveryzone.com/tests/lib/UCCASSv1.8.1/survey.php?sid=53

 

 
 
 

Coupleships

suggested reading materials

This array of reading materials not only explain why certain difficulties arise in coupleship but also share tools and exercises to address them.

  • "Coupleship," Sharon Wegsheider-Cruse

  • "Getting the Love you Want," Harville Hendrix

  • "Hold Me Tight," Sue Johnson

  • "The New Rules of Marriage," Terrence Real

  • "Why Marriages Suceed or Fail," John Gottman

  • "The Five Love Languages," Gary Chapman

  • "The ADHD Effect on Marriage," Melissa Orlov

  • "Mating in Captivity," Esther Perel

Adulting

Suggested Reading Materials & Websites

Because being 18+ means more than having the privilege to vote and buy cigarettes. . . 

  • "How to Be an Adult," David Richo

  • "Boundaries," Cloud/Townsend

  • "Seeking Serenity," Amanda Enayati

  • "Daring Greatly," Brene Brown

  • "Loving What is," Byron Katie

  • "The Road Less Traveled," M. Scott Peck, M.D.

  • "The Four Agreements," Don Miguel Ruiz

  • "Homecoming," John Bradshaw

  • www.adultchildren.org

 
 
 

Anxiety

Suggested Reading Materials and WEbsites

Do you long for freedom from anxiety:  to be free of the pit in your stomach, to fall asleep with ease and awaken feeling rested?  These books will give you relevant information, solutions and tools.

  • "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway," Susan Jeffers

  • "The Miracle of Mindfulness," Thich Nhat Hanh

  • "Mindfulness," Ellen Langer

  • "Self-Therapy for Your Inner Critic," Earley & Weiss

  • http://marc.ucla.edu/mindful-meditations

  • https://blog.spire.io/2017/11/05/deepak-chopras-meditations/

  • https://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2015/02/09/7-ways-meditation-can-actually-change-the-brian/#3d60cbdc1465

Nashville Area Resources

Suggested Contacts and Websites


For resources beyond the scope of The Hope Business, LLC., I am providing some potentially relevant, local resources, as follows:

  • TN Statewide Crisis Line: 1-855-274-7471

  • Crisis Text Line: text TN to 741741

  • Counseling and mental health resources for sliding scale needs: Https://wwww.opencounseling.com/tennessee/nashville











Grief & Loss

Suggested Readings

All change involves loss--even if there is gain.  With loss, grief may be present, which is a process rather than an event.  Our society often does not afford adequate support and recognition of this process, which further complicates grief.  Below are resources with information and practices to promote healing in the face of grief and loss.

  • "The Grief Recovery Handbook," James and Friedman

  • "The Wild Edge of Sorrow," Francis Weller

  • "Necessary Losses," Judith Viorst

  • "Healing After Loss," Martha Hickman

  • "Letting Go of the Person You Used to Be," Lama Surya Das

LGTBQ Resources

This is a work in Progress. Please visit again soon for more relevant resources.

  • For Online Safety and to Prevent Cyberbullying :

    https://www.vpnmentor.com/blog/lgbtq-guide-online-safety/

  • Research Supporting the Use of Chosen Names for Transgender Youths:

    https://news.utexas.edu/2018/03/30/name-use-matters-for-transgender-youths-mental-health/

  • For Those Wanting to Support their LGTBQ family:

    https://familyproject.sfsu.edu/

  • Posters Regarding Acceptance and Rejection of LGTBQ Youth:

    https://familyproject.sfsu.edu/poster-english

  • To Gain Information and Support LGTBQ Youth:

    https://genderspectrum.org/

  • To Gain Information Regarding LGTBQ Issues and to Access Support Groups:

    https://transfamilies.org/

  • Fundamental Education regarding Concepts and Verbage of LGTBQ:

    https://www.hrc.org/resources/reporting-about-transgender-people-read-this

  • How to Support Children in Schools Who Are LGTBQ or Transitioning:

    https://www.hrc.org/resources/a-parents-quick-guide-for-in-school-transitions-empowering-families-and-schools-to-support-transgender-and-non-binary-students